lewd, maso 

sudo systemctl enable systemd-painslutd

teacher: you have to make pull requests to each other's repos and improve the code quality

me, a lazy bitch: `dotnet-format; git commit -am "fixed formatting inconsistencies" && git push`

at this point just discard the idea of TLDs and let people register whatever they want

parents be like
[don't listen to their children]
[don't respect their children's feelings]
[yell at their children]
[don't teach their children anything]
[maintain a cycle of their children having an unhealthy amount of dependence for everything because of this]
oh yeah my child? c'mon they're obviously not mature enough to have rights, see :)))))

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people rly be out here treating children like property

it's sad

list of bad ways to respond to mh shit, 3/? 

what you say: have you tried [x]
what they hear:
-oh god this is my fault if only i did that stuff i wouldn't be feeling this
-they're assuming i haven't tried that already??
-they just want to feel good about helping

what you say: you're not alone/other people go through this
what they hear:
-they're not speaking from personal experience or backing this up so it's not very believable
-other peoppe manage this and i can't

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list of bad ways to respond to mh shit, 2/? 

what you say: it really does get better! i went through this too
what they hear:
-other nd ppl have a chance to heal but not me
-all this stuff i'm going through right now doesn't matter??
-i'm only worth something once i'm better

what you say: i'm worried about you
what they hear:
-oh god i made them upset now i have to make them feel better
-they don't respect my agency as an adult

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list of bad ways to respond to mh shit, 1/? 

ok here's a list of common (shitty) ways people respond to mh stuff and how they actual affect the person in question:

what you say: you aren't bad!! (you aren't broken, you're such a good person, etc)
things they will hear:
-i've tricked you into thinking i'm good, making me worse
-so there's no reason for me to be feeling this bad stuff??
-you aren't listening to me (i just explained how i did bad stuff)

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mental health thoughts 

our community responses to our peers mental health crises range from "not helpful" to "actively damaging" and it's so rare for people to critically analyze it i think because a lot of us go through the same stuff so the assumption is that, having similar experiences, of course we're responding in the best way we can. but actually we're just like, repeating the ways we were /taught/ to respond to mh crises and those ways are Bad

upbringing, counter-culture 

Thinking about this interview I heard with a 15 year old who was raised on an anarchist eco commune. She was taught about trees, plants, soil types, and general ecology her whole life.

If she learned something well enough to be considered an expert in it (for example, tree care), she was treated like an expert by everyone in the commune, even if she was only twelve at the time.

Der heutige "IT-Gipfel" aller Betriebe im Konzern ergab: wir werden unweigerlich umsteigen auf Microsoft365 und Azure. Voll und ganz.

Vielleicht sucht dort draußen noch jemand noch einen Senior Linux Admin mit > 15 Jahren Berufserfahrung? Gerne boost.

tell someone that you admire that they're awesome today

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