Which relationship model suites you best? If possible, please select one of the following models. If none of the options is suitable for you, please leave a comment.
It is not important whether you live the relationship model at the moment or not.
So, what exactly does "Relationship anarchy" mean?!
Thanks for asking this question. Am interested in the answers as well.
@leah what's the difference between open relationship and polyamory? We had this discussion in a meetup before and couldn't agree on a common definition.
@laufi polyamory is multiple full relationships at the same time. Relationship anarchy is much much broader and a different approach to relationships and not that fixed on a classic "relationship" thingy see: http://mehrplatzfuerdieliebe.blogspot.com/p/beziehungsanarchie-in-8-punkten.html?m=1
@leah sorry i meant open relationship vs. polyamory.
@laufi "open relationship" is usually meant as a subset of the possibility space of polyamory. e.g. having sex or cuddling with other people is usually okay in an open relationship, but there is only one "full" (romantic) partner. in contrast, polyamory is having multiple "full" relationships with multiple people at the same time. // @leah
@leah siri, show me a cross section of hell
Would be nice if the image was a bit larger, because I can't really read all the text.
@leah This must be the most confusing diagram I have ever seen
@leah I still think "it's complicated" describes it best
@leah any better res pic ?
@lm ist linked somewhere in the other replys.
@leah Can i get that in higher resolution or as an SVG? This looks real fun!
@leah /o\ woher soll ich denn das wissen (:
@1183519e kannst dich ja mal auf dem Wimmelbild suchen das ich noch in den Thread gehängt habe :P
@leah Joa, ein paar dieser Thesen kann ich schon mehr oder weniger toll finden.
Ach, vermutlich muss ich mich ja auch auf kein Label festlegen, solange ich die Dinge kommuniziert bekomm, wenns drauf ankommt.
@1183519e das sowieso :)
@leah I voted Monogamy, but that's heavily biased because I haven't actually experienced any other kind of relationship and it works at the moment 🤷♀️
I'm not closed to the idea, but not actively seeking anything.
I've never actively sought to be in a relationship though.
@leah it's complicated?
@leah I thought I was polyamourous, but according to your image I am probably more of a relationship anarchist. Although I don't really like the concept of relationships in that sense
@leah Hard to vote for me, i am in a monogamous relationship. But, we are open to date other people (or play with them), but only after clear communication and having input from the other. In practice this mostly means that my partner has had a few dates with other women. I haven't had those for now, who knows, maybe in the future.
@leah you could categorize this maybe under an "open relationship" to some degree. But i feel, that is more open (and from what i've seen with others, ending in a lot of drama for a lot of people).
@leah and according to the image we fall somewhere in the BDSM & D/s with the ability to play with other people.
@leah isn't this mostly arguing semantics?
I can prick from monogamy / ethical non-monogamy / whatever else
(my pick is ethical non-monogamy)
@uint8_t not sure if I get you right. Yes the boundaries are floating but it's a question about self-conception.
@leah I meant it comes down to how you define the terms.
@uint8_t for this kind of question this is allways the case if you don't ask them in personal conversation. But thats a normal inaccuracy you have to consider if you read such a poll.
@uint8_t @rixx no they are not competing but they are describing different models or things that are the key in the relationship. So for example polyamory is also possible with a strictly traditional view what is a relationship. Also you can say that polyamory is a to fixed concept from a RA perspective. It's complicated so there is a reason why they are not called the same even if they don't exclude each other.
What an outcome. I am on the wrong planet.
@leah I would not have expected those results. o.O
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