What is politeness, then? It is to speak the truth without being insensitive, to restrain one's impulses where appropriate, and to observe the norms of society without being defined by them. Politeness is "power in repose", a fine understanding of what brings us together, and an understanding of our own role in human ecology.

@willtochaos This reminds me a bit of the old saw, "some people use 'respect' to mean 'treat like a person' and others use it to mean 'treat like an authority'". Politeness benefits us when it means "power in repose", but it benefits those who wish to use us when we confuse it with "subservience" (as we often do).


@enkiv2 Politeness becomes a terrible vice when not accompanied by strength of character, indeed.

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